Today has been a year since the last time I have contact with this awesome person - we were going to be within a few miles of each other for once but our schedules just didn't make it happen. We talked by email and promised to meet up properly once the kids were back in school.
I never got that chance as Kimmy died from sudden late stage Cancer in September. It is hard to think that I knew her for so long - nearly 8 years and now I wont get to hear her laughter or read her pointed comments or see her new projects be it layouts or knitting. We've had some blazing rows and some amazing laughs but mostly we shared common interests and life experiences.
It might have been that hers was the 3rd death in our extended group within a year or the fact it was so sudden nut hHer death hit me harder than I expected as we weren't super close as personal friends but I counted her in my close friends and she was always there when i need advice or a swift kick.
Her funeral was serene and poignant. We got a good giggle out of the fact she was cremated in a woolen coffin - I think she would have found that awesome.
It made me think of the what-ifs and also of the whys, the wasted energies and wasted time in trying to keep reaching out to people and family who are determined to live a negative or destructive life. Life is too precious to waste it like that.
Her legacy will be there in the people she inspired and I will always be grateful to have known Kim.